Being a new mum can be a whole world of emotions. After birth, your hormones are all over the place, one minute you’re beaming with pride and the next you’re sobbing into a packet of biscuits. It’s tough and there isn’t a one size fits all guide to bringing up a baby. One thing you definitely need to do as a new mum though is to look after you. It’s definitely a juggling act and we often forget to look after ourselves once the baby comes along. The Little Book of Self-Care for New Mums by Beccy Hands and Alexis Stickland is the perfect prompt to remind you of all the things you need as a new mum.
This book is full of helpful advice and covers topics such as feeding your baby, easy to make meals, postnatal exercises, sex, postnatal healing and much more.
Here are a few of my favourite chapters from the book and the ones that have resonated with me the most.
The Importance of Rest
Very early on I learnt just how bad I was at functioning as a human on very little sleep. Before the baby, I was getting a whopping 10+ hours of sleep a night. Once Nolan arrived this dramatically dropped to 3-4 hours of broken sleep. I found the tiredness the hardest part of having a newborn baby. The advice in the early days is to sleep when the baby sleeps but I know a lot of mum’s feel guilty for doing this as they want to clean and keep on top of housework. This book helps put things into perspective, that pile of ironing can wait. Your health and well being is far more important and just getting those few extra hours of sleep can make the world of difference.
A Mother’s Instinct
It’s such a weird thing becoming a mum. Suddenly everyone has an opinion on how you do things. Even the simplest of things and someone suggests you do it differently. I’m all for a bit of friendly advice but I’ve already had strangers in the aisle of Asda telling me what not to buy. Nobody knows your child better than you and you need to own that. This chapter is such a lovely reminder to any new concerned or anxious mothers that everyone will have some self-doubt at some point but you absolutely know you and your baby best. Do things your way and don’t let anyone tell you how to parent your child.
Alexis’ Freedom Friday
Having had a horrific pregnancy with 9 months of morning sickness (a.k.a all pregnancy long sickness) I was so ready to get back to my pre-baby self. I had my first drink the night we brought him home along with a much-needed curry. Gavin and I went out for food and drinks when Nolan was 7 weeks old and I had my first girls night out last weekend when Nolan was 3 months old. I know a lot of mums who wait months before they get back out there and that’s fine too but even just going for an afternoon lunch date with friends without the baby can do the world of good for your mental health. Alexis’ Freedom Friday is finding a time each week where your partner or relative can have the baby for a few hours and you can do something that will help you feel like you again. Whether that’s an evening out with friends or an hour uninterrupted at home to have a bath and read a book. It’s so important to have that time away to recharge and generally just switch off for a moment.
The Little Book of Self-Care of New Mums is the perfect coffee table sized booked and one you can reach for when you need that little pep talk or that reminder to eat today, something I’m regularly finding I just don’t have time for. I’ve really enjoyed reading this book and although a few chapters, *cough* exercise *cough*, aren’t up my street I really resonated with a lot of the other chapters. This would be the perfect baby shower gift for a new mum to be or if your partner is due a baby soon this would be a very thoughtful gift for when you bring the baby home. The book covers topics that you might not be keen to talk about with others and offers reassurance when you need it most.
You can pick up the Little Book of Self Care for New Mum’s on Amazon now.